So far this week has been a bit of a crazy one. Work has me working from home so I’m spending a lot of time with the small ones (my 2 cats Gir and Houdini), and the mister. But being under pseudo self isolation has given me the gift of time.
Time to think and reflect. largely I have been using this time to really look at where I think I want to be in the next 10 years. This is an ongoing line of thought for me these days but I’m really trying to narrow it down. What are my goals for the next 5 and 10 years? What do I think I will be able to accomplish? What building blocks do I want to put in place to continue my growth? And then there is the reflecting time that I have been continuing to invest in. What do I think of the last 10 years? How have I fallen short of my expectations? And just as importantly, how have I exceeded my expectations? I’m really trying to make the most of this time ahead of me and plan for the big transitions ahead.
I’ve started actually taking this time to invest in myself and think about the big stuff in my life as well. Things like my spirituality and what that means to me. As I mentioned in another post, spirituality is something I’ve really struggled with but as I approach my thirties its felt really important to actually take some time to figure out where I sit with my spirituality.
It’s also given me time to think about short term goals. Like not going completely nuts being stuck in the house most of the day with limited human interaction. Yoga is going to be important as my usual routine with spin has been interrupted. I think I need to be doing yoga about 3 times a week, but its hard to know where to start with all the options out there for online yoga classes. If you know of any really great instructors doing youtube or similar, please let me know in the comments.
I also think I am going to double down on my meditation. I’ve got a ton of room to improve on my meditation practice (going from once a week to more than that shouldn’t be too hard right?). So wish me luck!
Well that’s pretty much it for this week. Hopefully next week is a little less of a crazypants time in the world. I’m really trying to be an optimist during this time, but it can be difficult with so much coming at you all at once. Hope you all are staying healthy and safe.
For a long time I have identified as agnostic. It’s been difficult for me to align myself with organized religion for a variety of reasons, which I won’t go into here. The moral of the story is I’ve struggled with my spirituality for some time now.
It’s only just been recently that I’ve started to think about the different kinds of spirituality that there is in the world. Something that has caught my attention has been astrology and human design. I think there is something worth investigating there, as they both are about the reason you are here right now. And that’s something that feels really powerful to me. Instead of a set of rules to follow or a belief of where you are going after you die, these forms of spirituality focus on your present life and making the best of the life you have. Be it explaining who you are (astrology) or WHY you are (human design).
Now I always thought of spirituality as something set in stone. You believed in God and thus were spiritual. Heaven and Hell, spiritual. Good and Evil, spiritual. The places the planets aligned at the exact moment you were born, well that wasn’t in my definition of what spirituality is. It was something you looked into for fun and you read your horoscope sometimes to see what someone thought your day was going to be like (usually in extremely generic terms). I definitely didn’t think you could be spiritual without believing in religion.
But looking at things from a broadened sense of what spirituality is has helped me frame what I believe in a little better. And its not something that I feel that I really was ready to explore before now, as I evaluate all parts of my life heading into my thirties. I still have a long way to go to know how much I hold in both astrology and human design, but I really feel like I’m on the right path.
Next stop is going to be getting my charts read by someone and really dig into what it means for me. I’m most interested in the human design chart as it explains things like what you are here to learn, or where you have the most room for growth. It’s meant to chart out in broad terms why you are existing now and I really think I could use some direction these days. It’s easy to feel lost, and I’m learning that a lot of people going through this big transition in life from their twenties to thirties start searching for direction, so i guess I’m right on track.
Do you know anything about astrology and human design? What are your thoughts on religion vs. spirituality? Let me know in the comments! And if you like what you’re reading don’t forget to follow my blog to catch the latest posts as soon as they’re out!
Lets talk for a second about roommates. I have had some monumentally crap ones. Like I have sworn off roommates for life.
I always thought growing up that having a roommate would be this awesome experience where you bonded and had chats in the hallway and hung out all the time. No one prepared me for how hard it can be to live with another human being who isn’t related to you or interested in sleeping with you. And twenties me has had a heck of a run in the roommates department.
Like, I had this one roommate who went so far as to spike tape out exactly where she wanted her stuff to go because she was convinced I was moving her stuff around. And she never cleaned up after herself. Like ever. But when we got fruit flies, somehow it was my fault.
Or a male roommate I had one time that was on drugs most of the time and brought strange women back to our house and left chewing gum all over the house on the walls. (Seriously do I know how to pick them or what).
I’ve had some good roommates too, ones who we did bond a little, and have fun together sometimes. Like once we had the power go out when I was living with 2 other girls and we just sat in our doorways talking for hours by candle light. Such an amazing time. But being together with a group of girls is wayyy harder than getting along with a group of guys. Girls are catty and weird with each other. There is definitely a vibe when you live with multiple girls.
And what about common areas? In my experience there has never been an equal use of common areas kind of situation. Someone always seems to rule over it and the other person simply spends all their time in their room.
Single living for life baybee!
Have I just had a bad run of roommates? Should I ever find myself in a situation where I might need one should I give it a shot? Let me know!
Growing up, I was convinced that my twenties were going to be like Friends. Working a job, hanging with a core group of friends all the time, and chilling at our favourite coffee house. Living some kind of kooky special life where the greatest things had yet to come. Having exciting dating experiences that I would be able to laugh about with my friends.
Instead, what I got was vastly different. I worked a lot, hardly had any close girlfriends, and had a lot of weird times. There were a ton of great things that happened. I met my partner Patrick, I graduated university, I moved to a great new city, started and mostly ended a career, and now am starting a new one.
But it has definitely been nothing like I was led to believe on Friends.
Its been harder than I could have imagined. I couldn’t wait to be in my twenties when I was a teenager. That’s when things would really change and be awesome. Life would really start. But in a way it really has just been a continuation of my teens. I still have so much to learn, I still have a lot of challenges to face, and I still have so much more of life to experience.
I thought that once I was turning 30 I would be in such a different place in life. Married, kids, established career, those are the life milestones I always imagined that I would have hit by now. But being here now, I almost feel like I wasn’t even close to ready for those things by 27 or 28. Even now, I’m only just feeling ready to really entertain those things. Maybe thirties me will really be the best me. Maybe it doesn’t have to be a mourning of my twenties ending (though I can imagine there will be some drunk tears on my birthday) but rather a celebration of all that is yet to come.
Have you hit your thirties yet? Is it really all I hear? Let me know in the comments! I love hearing from you. (And as always, don’t forget to like and follow the blog to hear first when new posts go live.)